At what point do you become the creepy old dude? When is an age gap really an issue.I have been pondering this of late. I am pushing towards that magical 40. The marker at the end of your dirty thirties.
It has been some time now since my last long term relationship and I wonder if I will have another. I honestly wonder if I am ready to compromise where I need to and open myself up again.
To throw trouble into the mix I seem to hanging with the wrong age group. I don't know exactly how it happened but just seem to have a disproportionate number of young female friends in my life.
By young I mean 20-23 year olds. Obviously it is a dancing thing but it is also through Kite surfing and climbing.
Girls my age seem to be either hanging in wine bars, married or watching TV with a tub of ice cream. I suppose they are out there but they just don't seem to be out doing the stuff I enjoy.
The ones that are, are all loved up and awesome people but just not available...they are the women I want but can't seem to find one who is single.
As my last couple of posts alluded to, there is a girl of interest who is age appropriate, who is active in most of the ways I like (although not much of a water baby...) but, and this is the killer as there is always a fucking but, she seems to have the most anoying commitment issues herself. She is hereby named Miss Unpredictable and I honestly have no idea where we stand.
It is at the point that I want to walk away from something that could be awesome because she is doing my head in. On the occasions that we have hooked up the sexin was good but it was not insane. It was a tad vanilla and to be honest, she just did not seem to be in the zone - not hungry. I like hungry. I like a girl who knows what she wants and demands it. Sex, roll over and go to sleep is not how it is supposed to be, especially at the start of a relationship.
So rewind to last night. One of my other, younger buddies is talking about friends with benefits while we climbed. She was bemoaning the fact that her last bit of fun had a girlfriend now, and the other option was overseas. God damn it, she had an itch that needed scratching.
Here was my dilemma. We have been mates for some time now, a couple of years. We are cuddly affectionate people but there is 17 years between us so it has never looked like crossing that line.
We have talked about all sorts of fun stuff and both joked and talked ourselves up on bedroom technique and etiquette but it was always a little at arms length because to be honest, I did not want to be knocked down for hitting on a 22 year old chick.
An insanely hot 22 year old chick. She dances, pole dances, climbs..in a word, fit.
Anyhow, after a big night of climbing we went back to my place on a whim and ended up curled up on the couch together watching good old MasterChef that I had recorded while we were out.
It was a do or die moment. In a flash we were together in a very cosy position that I had not even tried to engineer.
At the end of the show it was time to make a call on the situation. "So do you want a ride home or do you want to crash here and that itch scratched?"
I braced for the laugh, the knock back, the face screwed up "ewwwww!"
With the cheekiest of smiles she looked me in the eye, gave my leg a squeeze and suggested that if it could stay uncomplicated, mutual itch scratching was a fantastic idea and too long coming.
In an instant, the age gap was forgotten. This girl, so young, was the most sexually self aware and demanding bed partner I have had in a couple of years. I have not slept so little in a night of fun that just never seemed to end.
You know it is a fun night when you first roll into bed at midnight and while you are going for it yet again, the garbage trucks start rolling by and the sun peeks over the horison.
Un-fucking-believable is all I can say and work is killing me. So much so that I am writing this post rather than do what I should be doing.
If I knew for sure I was dating Miss Unpredictable then I would have to admit to being a cheating bastard but right now with so little communication and commitment from her I don't know what I am.
Opportunistic is probably the most appropriate word.
At the risk of bragging this is one opportunity I am so glad I got. It reminded me what makes me tick, what I want in a sexual partner and the connection, the raw desire I need to feel.
I had wondered if a slightly lack lustre sex drive on my part was age related and I have to say after last night, hell no. I just hadn't been with the right girl since a particular lady and a bathtub that I have yet to write about....
By young I mean 20-23 year olds. Obviously it is a dancing thing but it is also through Kite surfing and climbing.
Girls my age seem to be either hanging in wine bars, married or watching TV with a tub of ice cream. I suppose they are out there but they just don't seem to be out doing the stuff I enjoy.
The ones that are, are all loved up and awesome people but just not available...they are the women I want but can't seem to find one who is single.
As my last couple of posts alluded to, there is a girl of interest who is age appropriate, who is active in most of the ways I like (although not much of a water baby...) but, and this is the killer as there is always a fucking but, she seems to have the most anoying commitment issues herself. She is hereby named Miss Unpredictable and I honestly have no idea where we stand.
It is at the point that I want to walk away from something that could be awesome because she is doing my head in. On the occasions that we have hooked up the sexin was good but it was not insane. It was a tad vanilla and to be honest, she just did not seem to be in the zone - not hungry. I like hungry. I like a girl who knows what she wants and demands it. Sex, roll over and go to sleep is not how it is supposed to be, especially at the start of a relationship.
So rewind to last night. One of my other, younger buddies is talking about friends with benefits while we climbed. She was bemoaning the fact that her last bit of fun had a girlfriend now, and the other option was overseas. God damn it, she had an itch that needed scratching.
Here was my dilemma. We have been mates for some time now, a couple of years. We are cuddly affectionate people but there is 17 years between us so it has never looked like crossing that line.
We have talked about all sorts of fun stuff and both joked and talked ourselves up on bedroom technique and etiquette but it was always a little at arms length because to be honest, I did not want to be knocked down for hitting on a 22 year old chick.
An insanely hot 22 year old chick. She dances, pole dances, climbs..in a word, fit.
Anyhow, after a big night of climbing we went back to my place on a whim and ended up curled up on the couch together watching good old MasterChef that I had recorded while we were out.
It was a do or die moment. In a flash we were together in a very cosy position that I had not even tried to engineer.
At the end of the show it was time to make a call on the situation. "So do you want a ride home or do you want to crash here and that itch scratched?"
I braced for the laugh, the knock back, the face screwed up "ewwwww!"
With the cheekiest of smiles she looked me in the eye, gave my leg a squeeze and suggested that if it could stay uncomplicated, mutual itch scratching was a fantastic idea and too long coming.
In an instant, the age gap was forgotten. This girl, so young, was the most sexually self aware and demanding bed partner I have had in a couple of years. I have not slept so little in a night of fun that just never seemed to end.
You know it is a fun night when you first roll into bed at midnight and while you are going for it yet again, the garbage trucks start rolling by and the sun peeks over the horison.
Un-fucking-believable is all I can say and work is killing me. So much so that I am writing this post rather than do what I should be doing.
If I knew for sure I was dating Miss Unpredictable then I would have to admit to being a cheating bastard but right now with so little communication and commitment from her I don't know what I am.
Opportunistic is probably the most appropriate word.
At the risk of bragging this is one opportunity I am so glad I got. It reminded me what makes me tick, what I want in a sexual partner and the connection, the raw desire I need to feel.
I had wondered if a slightly lack lustre sex drive on my part was age related and I have to say after last night, hell no. I just hadn't been with the right girl since a particular lady and a bathtub that I have yet to write about....
Miss Unpredictable has a date with me tonight and as crass as it sounds I get to do the side by side taste test.
It is going to be an interesting night indeed.
7 comments:
Now THAT is sexy, you lucky bastard. Just need a few more descriptive passages of the sexin'. Last night I mean.
*applause*
(word verification = 'rompin' )
details plz. right down to how you tied her down with the duck tape
@ Fanny: I could be more descriptive but check out the bed scenes in this clip from about 3.50 onwards to get an idea... Alejandro (thanks to LP for this)
@ Lady Pants: Yay for Rompin and thanks for the applause because it was the sort of session that deserved and audience :p
@ Unique Stephen: There was no duck but what I can say is that if this keeps going as planned (two more nights like it already) - I am going to have so much sexy blog fodder!
The link seemed to loop back to here? I'm in suspenders over here and left wanting! (unlike your young lady partner ....)
That's pretty awesome that she is so confident and self-aware at such a young age. And, I am sure that you gave her something she doesn't always get from the men in her own age group.
@Fanny: Whoops..try this link
@EOM: I have to agree and can't tell you how refreshing it is! I would like to think I am bringing something new to the party.
I keep getting invites for repeat performances so enough said really :)
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